Sunday, February 15, 2009

Saturday early morning bad news.........

When most people was wishing family, friends....love ones Happy Valentines Day....Saturday morning......I was getting bad news. The first call I received was early.......too early...I didn't answer it....they left a message on my voice mail. When I checked it a couple of hours later, it was a friends wife....not him......and she was in tears....trembling voice....they had went out to eat Friday night....were on their way home and was in a head on collision.....he was killed...... she wasn't hurt(Thursday night, on the way to mom's house, it was her birthday, Lee Laurie and I passed a wreck on the interstate and when we saw the truck, or what use to be a truck, I told her "that's bad". Well, it was a friend of my sister's, he was pronounced dead on the scene.) Getting back to yesterday Pickett(I always called him by his last name) was a good friend of mine. We met about a year ago at the bank, he was my "Repo Man". In just a short span of time we became good friends. He carried on non-sense like me. He told me not long ago that he considered me one of his good friends and that he liked me. I told him, that he was the kind of friend that...if I was on the side of road...anywhere....at 2:00 in the morning....and I needed him....that his dumb ass would come help me.....he said "you know it". He saw pictures of Lee in my office, but wasn't sure if she really existed....ha. He and his wife, Anita Carol, took Lee Laurie, Cole, Garrett and myself out to eat one Friday night about 3 or 4 weeks ago. We had a good time...talked, laughed, learned a little bit about each other and ate way too much! Lee liked him and his wife, they are like us....just down to earth everyday common folk....The last two days of his life he texted me......just to say "morning", they came by the bank Friday afternoon just say hey, he also invited us to go fishing to Lake Washington on March the 13th with his whole family......instead we will go to his visitation tonight and the funeral tomorrow.

Then I got a call from Larry.....he is the old fart that I make the bowls and pens with. Larry has been a really good friend to me. He stood true to me through the good times and the bad times......through my divorce he was always there to listen and offer advice.....and whatever else I have encountered over the last several years......he has helped in so many ways that I can not remember all of them. well, he was at the Baptist hospital in Jackson, he had had heart surgery and he should get to come home today. I immediately asked him was there anything around the house he needed me to do, but there wasn't. He then told me that his cancer was back......he was diagnosed with lung cancer several years ago...and had the lung removed. Now his other lung.....yep his only lung has cancer now....however he was in good spirits and carrying on his normal non-sense(I can't mention it in on the blog...ha). He has a wonderful wife, Amelia. I love to pick on her too. It is so easy to push her buttons....if you know which ones.....whew....she will get feisty quick......she will also tell you just how it is. I like people that are straight forward....no beating around the bush.....I told him to call me when he gets home and we would come visit. I will have to give him a hard time....no mercy.....

I wasn't going to do a this blog.....because I just wouldn't open up like this. However, after reading Nita's blog from Red Tin Heart, it inspired me too......the title of her blog is We are not Replaceable....she also wrote....

We make more of a difference in life than we know...
You make more of a difference in life than you know...

WE ARE NOT REPLACEABLE!!!!

As the tears are flowing down my face uncontrollable.....I know that I am blessed by God....giving me the family and friends that I have which I love dearly....giving me a "second chance" at love.....I am grateful for everything he has given me.....you see these tears are not just tears of sadness......but tears of......thankfulness.....happiness....love.....

OK....on my next blog, you will see that my best friend, Lee Laurie, helped me to have a wonderful day in spite of everything.....she is my true friend......and I am so blessed to have her as a friend, I love her!

4 comments:

Judith said...

I am so sorry to read your news and to learn of the tragic circumstances of your friends. I feel blogging is a good way of unwinding and releasing your thoughts which in turn helps the healing process. Tears too are necessary to help us to indentify with the hurts of those who love. So my friend to not be concerned about writing your post or your tears - through them it helps readers like me to prayer for you and your friends at this time. God bless you. Judith

~Red Tin Heart~ said...

Stevie, I just want to thank you for the kind words. It really touches me that my words make an impact.

I am so sorry to hear about the death of your friend, and the tragedy of your other friend getting cancer again.

We just have to appreciate every good moment we have don't we? I know you do I can tell.

You are a kind person..
Stop by and leave me a Valentines memory comment so you can win something for Lee.
xoxo Nita

nikkicrumpet said...

I am so sorry that your life has been troubled with sooo much sadness and loss. It can come at you quick! I hope things start looking up and getting better for you, your family, and your friends. Nobody should have to deal with that much loss in such a short period of time!

Deanna said...

Stevie, Marshall and I just got home and I wanted to read about your friend. Judith is right, it is a good way of unwinding. You will be surprised at how many people will come to your side and offer so much love and support.

Marshall and I will pray for his wife that she will be able to go on.

Big Texas sized hugs,
your buddy,
Deanna